Playtime for Couples Creates Happier Relationships

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Couples who find the time to have fun and play are generally happier. A University of Denver study supports this.

Howard Markman, a psychologist who co-directs the university's Center for Marital and Family Studies says "The more you invest in fun and friendship and being there for your partner, the happier the relationship will get over time."

As life takes over and we have increased responsibilities with work, home and children, time to have fun as a couple becomes infrequent.  However, foregoing that time together can have adverse consequences.

Keep in mind that men and women see things differently. Men get more out of participating in activities while women prefer a great conversation.

Les Parrott, a psychology professor and author of relationship books, suggests "Intimacy and friendship for a man is built on shared activity, but for women, shared activity is a backdrop for a great conversation. What she wants on date night is a time of intimacy and friendship. He's disappointed because she'll never go to a game or golfing, and it's during shared activities that his spirit is most likely to open up."

“Dates” are also interpreted differently. Women consider a date something that is planned in advance. For men a date can simply mean grabbing a cup of coffee on the spur of the moment.

If you are looking for that “fun couple time” consider engaging activities.  Avoid solitary activities like watching television.  Sure you can watch television together but it is not an activity that lets you focus on each other.

Instead consider taking ballroom dance classes or play mini golf. Whatever you choose let it be something you both want to try.

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